The rules of love : a personal code for happier, more fulfilling relationships / Richard Templar.

Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live. In this book, the rules of love are revealed, so you too can benefit from the simple principles of forming and sustaining strong, enduring and ultimately, life enhancing relationships.

Main Author: Templar, Richard, 1950-2006.
Published: New York : Pearson, 2013.
Edition: 2nd ed.
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Strong, loving relationships are what life's all about. And some people are really good at it.


They find a partner who makes them happy and they seem to know instinctively how to handle tricky times and keep the relationship fresh and rewarding.


They make friends easily and have lasting relationships that stand the test of time. They are the lynchpin of a strong supportive family. They make it look effortless. Yet for most of us it just isn't that straightforward. Love may be a basic human instinct, but sharing your life with other people isn't always easy.


Is there something these people know that we don't? Is there something we can all benefit from? The answer is a resounding yes. They know The Rules of Love .


The Rules of Love are a set of guiding principles that will help form and sustain strong, enduring and ultimately life enhancing relationships.


This new edition includesnbsp;7 brand new rules for even happier and more fulfilling relationships. You'll feel the benefits - and so will everybody around you.

Table of Contents


Rules for Finding Love

1Be yourself

2Get over it before you get on with it

3You won't be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own

4You'll know them when you meet them

5Choose someone who makes you laugh

6Being less than a hundred percent attractive is a great filter

7Don't keep making the same mistakes

8Certain people are off limits (you know who they are)

9You can't change people

10Relationships aren't about sex

11Get to know someone through all the seasons before making any major decisions

12Don't stay with someone who doesn't care

13If you can't trust them, you haven't got a relationship

14Be honest (while you still have the chance)

15Don't play games

16Don't tar new partners with old brushes

17Check you both have the same shared goals

18You can't make someone love you

19Be cruel to be kind

Relationship Rules

20Be nice

21Be together because you want to, not because you need to

22Allow your partner the space to be themselves

23Look to your own faults

24Be honourable

25Put each other first

26Recognize the signs

27Be a hero - or a heroine

28Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common

29Don't belittle your partner

30You want to do what?

31Let not the sun go down upon your wrath

32Be the first to say sorry

33Let them have the last word

34Houston, we have a problem

35Don't put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there

36Know when to listen and when to act

37Never stop trying to be attractive

38If you can say something nice, do

39Don't try to be their parent

40Be part of their life

41If little things annoy you, say so - with humour

42Go that extra step in trying to please them

43Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you

44Don't dump responsibility on your partner

45Let them know if you don't like their friends

46Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs

47Your partner is more important than your kids

48Make time for romance

49Have a passion for your life together

50Share the workload

51Trust the other one to do the job

52Don't be a nag

53Make sure your love making is making love

54Don't control them

55Listen to what they're not saying

56Most everyday arguments are about something else

57Respect privacy

58Treat your partner better than your best friend

59Don't be offended if they want some space

60Men like flowers too

61Keep your finances separate

62Contentment is a high aim

63Be generous to each other financially

64You make a choice every day

65Don't be a martyr

66Stop sniping - someone has to

67You don't both have to have the same rules

68Do it their way if it matters to them

69Put yourself in their shoes

70In-laws are part of the package

71Keep talking

Rules for Parting

72Listen to your own internal voice

73Recognize that it takes two

74Keep the moral high ground

75Don't keep raking it over

76Leave the kids out of it

Family Rules

77Don't blame your parents

78Don't let your parents control your feelings

79Your children come before you

80Nothing is worth falling out over

81Treat them right, no matter how they treat you

82There are no circumstances in which it is ever acceptable to say 'I told you so'

83Don't pressurize your family just because you can

84Never be too busy for loved ones

85Your children need to fall out with you to leave home

86They don't have to be the same as you

87There's always stuff with siblings

88Let go of your role

Friendship Rules

89There are no rules

90Your best friend was once a stranger

91Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse

92If you're going to be a friend, be a good friend


94Never give advice

95Don't make other people uncomfortable

96Find friends who love the truth

97Never lend money unless you're prepared to write it off

98If you don't like their partner, tough

99When one finger points forwards, three point back

100Friendships change

101Know when to let go

102Bitterness helps no one

Rules for Everyone

103People are more important than things

104Guilt is a selfish emotion

105Love equals time

106The more you put out, the more you get back

107Other people are where it's at